A Period isn’t an Excuse to have an Attitude

Last night I read on Instagram, “A period isn’t an excuse to have an attitude”. This comment was made by a man, and the first question that came to my mind was, how would you know if you never had one?

Guys, periods aren’t that simple!

About half the population doesn’t know what it feels like to bleed monthly but have complaints about it. The only excuse I could up with is that men aren’t taught about menstruation. When it comes to female sexual anatomy, most men are less informed (or misinformed). Bring up a conversation about monthly cycle with a man and watch his face hint all shades of irritability, discomfort, embarrassment and awkwardness.

Menstrual cycles are an integral part of female human experience, deal with it!

Women have had to endure centuries of period shaming. The consciousness that many people consider periods as gross and messy is shameful. In some parts of rural India, menstruating women are prohibited from entering the kitchen and cooking food. In Japan, there’s a belief that women cannot be sushi chefs because of menstruation. In Venezuela, many women are forced to sleep in huts for the duration of their menstruation. Some traditions prohibit women from entering holy temples, offering prayers, or partaking in rituals because menstruating women are regarded as “impure”. In some parts of Indonesia, western Nepal and among tribes of Nigeria, young schoolgirls are made to miss school every month during their menses, thus affecting their education and many just drop out. Attitudes towards menstruation are generally negative.

Periods are totally natural!

The female gender has been subjected to ridicule, discrimination, child marriage and violence, resulting to low self-esteem and untreated health problems such as pneumonia, urinary tract infections, nutritional deficiencies and dysmenorrhea – which is often neglected. The cost of menstrual products adds to the notion that daughters are economically burdensome. And most women do not even have access to proper hygiene such as clean water, resources such as sanitary pads and support they need for their periods.

Periods are a personal issue!

Menstruation is more than shedding is blood every month.

As if it’s not enough to bleed for days, period comes with:

• Moodiness – Before and during a woman’s period, hormones move through different phases. As those hormones rise and fall, so does her mood. As a result, she goes from angry to crabby to anxious to gloomy. This is unavoidable. And it is NOT OK to dismiss these feelings.

• Nausea – One of the hormones released during menstruation is called Prostaglandin. Once in the bloodstream, this hormone can cause vomiting, diarrhea and headaches.

• Breast swelling and tenderness.

• Acne breakouts

• Cravings

• Fever

• Fatigue

• Backaches

• Cramps – A painful throbbing sensation around the abdominal area. It is not like anything the guys have ever experienced. Ladies take off work, curl up in bed because it is that bad. No exaggeration, it interferes with the ability to concentrate and other daily activities.

Period doesn’t have to be one of the most taboo topics!

The stigma that surrounds menstruation needs to seriously be debunked. Teaching boys and girls about menstruation at an early age can have a large impact on the world. Period talk around men doesn’t have to be hush-hush. All the secrecy and mystery only makes it seem strange. Start candid conversations with the men in your life – your sons, brothers, friends and partners about female hygiene, menstruation process, symptoms and products.

Menstruations should be celebrated for the positive augur of fertility that it is. Period!

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      1. fully recovered now thanks… oddly I found other women the most hostile and disbelieving about my suffering! Men usually gave me the benefit of the doubt but 98% – men and women – were uncomfortable if I tried to discuss it at all …

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    1. Yes! I have heard about how Scotland has make period products free to all who need them. That is so awesome! It is worthy of emulation.

      Thank you. Thank you. Thank you for reading. I sincerely appreciate it. Stay safe and have a lovely day ❤️❤️❤️

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  1. I appreciate that you have raised the issue in a positive manner. I agree that superstitions still exist, but with reference to your last line, I must add that in some parts of South India, menarche is celebrated like a ceremony as a milestone in a woman’s life. Moreover, the goddess Kamakhya in Assam is worshipped during menstruation once a year in a festival called Ambubachi.

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    1. Wow. Thank you for this new information. I love it! That’s why I wrote some parts of India. It feels really good to know about some parts of South India where it’s celebrated and the goddess. Thank you so much for taking your time to read this piece. Also, thanks a million for sharing your knowledge. I appreciate it. Thank you.

      Have a great day and stay safe. ❤️❤️❤️

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  2. This is really great. I feel like simply being female makes many things about you a taboo. From an early age, girls are taught shame in the name of propriety. We need to encourage boldness on these topics no matter how “uncomfortable” they may be.

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    1. Yes. I agree with this 100%. We can’t keep shying away from this topic. It needs to be told. Our men need to be enlightened. I think a lot of them will react better to menstruation if they had a better understanding.

      Thank you for reading. Stay Safe. ❤️❤️❤️

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  3. Our period might be light or heavy, painful or pain-free, long or short, and still be considered normal. I have come to realise what’s normal for me might not be normal for the next person. Menstrual cycles, like you mentioned is an integral part of female human experience and I love your statement: “Menstruations should be celebrated for the positive augur of fertility that it is. Period!”

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    1. Yep, period! It should be celebrated, not treated as a stigma. Period literally prepares the body for pregnancy. Why shouldn’t we celebrate it?

      Thank you for reading. Stay safe ❤️❤️❤️

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  4. I have been trying to understand Menstruation from last one year and it helped me understand how female moods process, like if there is a sudden change. This post is spot on and enlightening. Thank you for writing it!

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    1. Thank you for reading. Thank you for taking your time to understand the integral and misunderstood part of womanhood. I hope you share your knowledge with other people out there who are blind when it comes to this topic. Stay safe ❤️❤️❤️

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    1. Yes, it is. I think the negative attitude women have to deal with worsens the physical pain.

      Thank you for reading. I appreciate taking out your time to check out this piece. Stay safe. ❤️❤️❤️


  5. Bravo! This is such an important and mostly overlooked topic. You’ve put it front and center with grace, knowledge, and a strong dose of reality! The images you used to illustrate this piece are so perfect.

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    1. Thank you for reading and leaving a kind comment. We need to talk about it. Until when do we pretend period-shaming doesn’t exist? The change has to begin. I hope it does begin.


  6. Being a women one can corelate everything with her own experience…but a man can have to just value this fact that it’s natural and still they can’t do this…
    Nice initiative..

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    1. Exactly. Some men need to value the fact that it’s natural. They need to understand it even though they cannot experience it.
      Thanks a bunch for reading. I appreciate it! Stay safe ❤️❤️❤️

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  7. Excellent post!!! That infuriates me to hear a comment like that coming from a man! It’s sad and ridiculous how women are expected to hide their periods in shame and pretend everything is normal! Women have so much strength!

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  8. I think that education would be great. But I think it also needs to be said that not all of what you stated happens to everyone. While hormones and chemical are released not every woman gets moody and not everyone bends over in pain. Sometimes I think that stereo-type needs to be balanced with the sizeable number of woman who are lucky (DAMN LUCKY) to not even know they are having their period until they see the evidence. The stereo-type that every woman becomes a nasty person and is in pain is just annoying.

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