Have you ever taken a close look at the people you are surrounded with? Do they tell you the truth? Or tell you only what you want to hear? If you relate better to the latter, you might be surrounded by a bunch of yes-men.
Who are Yes-Men?
Yes-Men are people-pleasers.
These people agree with everything you say. They could be in your circle of friends or family or colleagues. Regardless of your actual attitude, every single thing you do or don’t do, pleases them and looks good in front of them (mainly because it benefits them in some way or they don’t just want to tell you the truth or your attitude and words tell them you do not want to hear the truth). They never suggest a differing opinion, making you comfortable and safe to do the stupidest things that might lead you off the cliff.
Are Yes- Men dangerous?
I’d say yes.
Their dishonesty can hurt you, hinder your progress and end things in regret.
Even though when expressing ourselves we prefer acceptance to criticism and surround ourselves with people who think like us,we are humans – imperfect, there are times we will be wrong. In life, we will make many mistakes. We’ll make bad choices. And being surrounded by people who do not tell the complete truth doesn’t help.
Don’t get me wrong. Having people who support what you love and do is an integral part of man’s life but having people who can also criticise you with love when it is needed is equally important to your growth.
Yes-Men don’t really care about you; they care about their personal gain. They cannot challenge you or give opposing information or advices, and they even applaud your dumb thoughts and ideas.
They recognize and ignore your weaknesses, thereby making you vulnerable and stagnant.
People who are not afraid to disagree with us are not necessarily jealous of us or ignorant to the topic brought before them. In fact, some disagreements are healthy. Some conflicts, productive. Be a good listener. Do not get used to receiving praises from those around you every single time. Say “no” to yes-men.
To Yes-Men: It is okay to dish out helpful no’s too, if need be (in a gentle manner, of course).
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